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Grandma’s return brings joy

19 Sunday Oct 2014

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After spending a year with us, my Mom went back home over the summer. It was not an easy adjustment. We got through it and I felt proud that we were able to manage in her absence, I know this gave her peace of mind.

My Mom has been with us through the best of time. She and David got along so well. It was more of a Mother-Son relationship. I used to joke with David that I was the daughter-in-law in the relationship. He was the first to call her and ask her to come and visit when we hadn’t seen her for a while.

She has also been with us through the roughest of time. She spent a several months with us following the news of the diagnosis. After the news of the reoccurrence she was back to help us. And last year, as the disease progress she was with us through every step until she returned home this summer.

Her presence has also allowed my daughters lots of time with Grandma and they have a close bond. My youngest daughter has spent most of her life with my Mom that she did not realize that Grandma has her own house elsewhere.

My youngest daughter had the roughest time adjusting to Grandma’s summer departure. She missed her so much and seemed to struggle to understand her absence. In fact, she would cry for David, then cry for Grandma.  I tried to enforce that while Daddy is not coming back Grandma will return. What worked best was FaceTime since it provided the reassurance of seeing Grandma’s face. It was so comforting for her to see Grandma on the phone that she never ended the call even as she played the house or until she fell asleep.

When my Mom finally returned, the happiness in my daughter’s eyes were indescribable. They were inseparable. With great joy, she would tell anyone “My Grandma is back”.  She thanked me for bringing her Grandma back. My heart melted as I wondered if she thought I could bring her Dad back and as I imagined the joy she would have to see Daddy again. Knowing that cannot happen is saddening. How I wish David just took a long trip transatlantic and would be coming back soon.

We are so glad Grandma is back, she brings great comfort, she is the homework expert facilitator, chef extraordinaire, and the one that helps ensure my daughter is on time for school regardless of the weather.

On this Mother’s Day

11 Sunday May 2014

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On this Mother’s day, I recognize so many of the amazing Mothers I know. I thank God for my amazing Mother and my  children who allow me to experience this wonderful blessing of motherhood. Girls, I love being your mother.

Today, I am so grateful for David’s Mother. She is very kind hearted with a beautiful smile. She always makes people feel welcome and loved. She is the reason that David was so sweet and affectionate. David always talked about all the wonderful things his Mommy did for him growing up. A lot of them were memories of little things that made his childhood extra special. Such as making green eggs and ham based on the Dr Suess book. Or giving him a bowl full of sugar to dip strawberries, or sticking pretzel sticks into a banana. His eyes twinkled with the excitement of a little boy when he shared some of the memories. I remember his happiness whenever we visited and his Mom had his favorite beef stew ready.

She is a woman of grace, a woman who still believes in the elegance of the past decades. Some of her taste in decor and jewelry has rubbed off on me.  My Sister and I jokingly refer to me as a 1950s wife based on my fondness for some of the retro/vintage things from that era. Many of the decor in our home are gifts David’s Mom has given us over the years. I hope to take care of them with the same great care so that my daughters can also enjoy having them in the future. This would further help in preserving David’s legacy.

Most especially, I admire David’s Mother’s strength. She has experienced one of the greatest loss in life, losing her dear son. A son who loved his mother to no end. A son who always brighten the house the moment he walked in to visit his parents. He knew just how to make his parent laugh and how to tease his mother until she believed he needed a smack. Despite her loss and the other personal challenges she has faced including the passing of David’s Dad last year, she continues to be very graceful, loving, and caring. She worries about my well-being and about her grandchildren – they are so dear to her heart.

I admire her for being a wonderful mother, grandmother, and wife. I admire how she filled their home with so much love. I recall David once saying that “even though my Mom worked, I always remember her being present”. This reflected how she was always active in his life and helping make the best memories. Hopefully, I can raise my daughters to say the same thing about me in the future.

A big thank you to my daughters (cough Sister) for the beautiful flowers. Also, the Mother’s day art and crafts they made. Thank you to everyone for Mother’s day messages, your calls and the cards. A very Happy Mother’s Day to all.

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